Grief: 4 Years Later

  Four years ago our seventh child, Annalee, died two weeks before her 8th birthday. Bill and I chose the verse on her headstone¹ because we believe Annie’s life was ordained and planned by God. C.S. Lewis refers to this concept in his classic book, A Grief Observed:

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How to Create a Memory Garden

Was your mother’s favorite color yellow? Did your grandmother grow the best roses in the neighborhood? Gardens are a way to surround ourselves with the colors and scents that evoke memories of those who’ve gone before us. If you’re a gardener, you’ve probably already incorporated shrubs or perennials that remind you of a loved one. […]

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Isolation–One of God’s Most Effective Classroom Settings

Isolation as defined by J. Robert Clinton in The Making of A Leader, (the best book on leadership I’ve ever read), is being separated from normal involvement…usually for an extended time, where a leader experiences some aspect of relationship to God in a new or deeper way. He explains that God uses this time of isolation […]

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Combating Mother’s Day Angst

This Sunday marks the 100th anniversary of Mother’s Day, when President Woodrow Wilson declared the second Sunday in May a national holiday to honor mothers. However, not all people look forward to Mother’s Day. Many would prefer to avoid it completely and leap from celebrating Cinco de Mayo right on over to Memorial Day. Reasons […]

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What Not To Say To Grieving Friends

Last week I read a Facebook post by Kay Warren, where she wrote about the subtle and not-so-subtle pressure she’s been feeling from people to be moving along in grieving her son, Matthew. The not-so-veiled message she’s gotten is that she be “over it.” When are you coming back? friends ask her, not comprehending that life […]

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