Grief: 4 Years Later

  Four years ago our seventh child, Annalee, died two weeks before her 8th birthday. Bill and I chose the verse on her headstone¹ because we believe Annie’s life was ordained and planned by God. C.S. Lewis refers to this concept in his classic book, A Grief Observed:

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How to Create a Memory Garden

Was your mother’s favorite color yellow? Did your grandmother grow the best roses in the neighborhood? Gardens are a way to surround ourselves with the colors and scents that evoke memories of those who’ve gone before us. If you’re a gardener, you’ve probably already incorporated shrubs or perennials that remind you of a loved one. […]

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On the Anniversary of Roe v. Wade, Can God Redeem the Choice You Regret?

Today is the anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the 1973 Supreme Court decision legalizing abortion in the U.S. In addition to the tragedy of the over 57 million lives lost, there are millions of men and women who grieve the decision they made, years, even decades, ago. For that, this day can be a bitter […]

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My Two Lost Babies–Reflections on Miscarriage

As grief is a regular topic on this blog, I recently asked my niece, Sharon, if she would share her experiences of her two miscarriages, and the impact these little lives had on her, her marriage, her children, and her faith in God. ~~~~~~~ When Jean asked me to write this, I hadn’t given a […]

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Show Up and Shut Up—What to do for a Friend in Crisis

When my 3 year old daughter, Annie, lay unresponsive on an emergency room gurney after suffering a severe brain injury, Bill and I didn’t need friends to tell us everything was going to be okay. Nor did we need anyone telling us that all things work together for good. What we needed was for someone […]

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