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3 Reasons to Go Back to Church

You’ve been hurt. Worse, by people you trusted–or thought you could. Going back to church–any church–gives you hives. Why set yourself up for that again? Why risk hanging out with people who look like Christians, say they’re Christians, but who may not always act like Christians? (Not like I’ve had these types of conversations with myself, mind you.) Read More


How to Create a Memory Garden

IMG_0487Was your mother’s favorite color yellow? Did your grandmother grow the best roses in the neighborhood? Gardens are a way to surround ourselves with the colors and scents that evoke memories of those who’ve gone before us. If you’re a gardener, you’ve probably already incorporated shrubs or perennials that remind you of a loved one. But what if you’re new to gardening? Can you create a secret spot tucked away where every plant color and scent stirs warm recollections of the one you miss? Of course! Let me give you some ideas to begin.

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On the Anniversary of Roe v. Wade, Can God Redeem the Choice You Regret?

Today is the anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the 1973 Supreme Court decision legalizing abortion in the U.S. In addition to the tragedy of the over 57 million lives lost, there are millions of men and women who grieve the decision they made, years, even decades, ago. For that, this day can be a bitter reminder of a loss they silently bear alone.

What if one day, many years ago, you made that choice? What if deep down inside, you wish you would have done things differently? What if you have a silent, gnawing sense of guilt that never seems to go away? Read More


Living in a House Divided: The NFC Championship Game

My husband, Bill, is a dyed-in-the-wool Green Bay Packer fan. Which is great because wool is mandatory attire when watching football in Wisconsin. Especially outside. Wool and a roll of pink insulation. I, on the other hand, don’t like to be mind-numbingly cold, and Green Bay is pretty much in the eye of the Polar Vortex throughout the football season. So most years I’m a staunch Seahawk fan, particularly when the Steelers don’t make it to the playoffs. Yep, this year it’s the Packers and the Seahawks, and I’m thinking Sunday is gonna be loud at our house–Beast Quake loud.

photoTo be completely candid, our competing alliances can be a source of considerable conflict at our house. Like, should we dress the dog in a Seahawk jersey or a Packer one? Or, what kind of cheese should we serve during halftime–Wisconsin cheddar or Beechers? And then there’s the pregame music: should we listen to Nirvana, Heart, Pearl Jam, or…polka?

I will agree with Bill that the Packers are somewhat great-ish. There’s the Lombardi legacy: “If winning isn’t everything, why do they keep score?” I get all that. But the reality is, quarterback Aaron Rodgers is a big question mark this weekend with a torn left calf muscle. Just between you and me, I’m pretty sure there aren’t enough steroids in the NFL to keep Aaron’s leg pumped up for four quarters. And if Kam Chancellor leaps over the line like he did twice last weekend, it will not be a beautiful day in the neighborhood for Mr. Rodgers. Then, sadly, the Seahawks will advance to the Super Bowl for a chance to bring home the Lombardi trophy. A-gain. But only if that were to happen, hypothetically.

All that to say, I would be sinning if I didn’t pray for my husband’s favorite quarterback to make it through the game, calves intact. And I will, because I’m all for peace on earth and planet Sullivan. For now, though, I’m left with a few important decisions to make, like what color scarf should I wear with my green sweater on Sunday, gold or blue?

How’s this season playing out at your house? Skittles, anyone?